Every fall, western Massachusetts is home to New England’s biggest fair: the Eastern States Exposition. Affectionately known as “the Big E,” the fair combines all the traditional agricultural and educational aspects of state fairs. For three weeks each and every September, more than one million people enjoy the myriad exhibitions and competitions.
Established 95 years ago, the Big E is located on 175 acres and has numerous permanent structures. And the crown jewel of all is the building that has always captured my fancy: The Better Living Center. All it is, really, is a large exhibit hall. But that name! Oh, joy, rapture! Year after year, I am drawn to the building because of that extraordinary name. I try to imagine what must have possessed the original designers of the Big E in anointing it with THAT name among all other designations. I’ve concluded that the name was given because it offers the visitor not just that which is known to be good now, it offers possibilities of that which has yet to be imagined. Yes, that is Better Living indeed.
My attraction to that concept makes complete sense. Essentially, better living is my total focus as a professional coach. I work with folks to design and then thrive in their custom-created “better living centers.”
I have crafted these blog posts to serve as your virtual Better Living Center.
Effective coaches don’t tell people what to do; they help people build personalized frameworks and systems that bring out their best, now and in the future. In these posts, I’ll suggest, challenge, and support you to consider your own life. What’s working well? How can it be better? What used to work, but upon assessment, needs to be upgraded or eliminated? What resources do you need? Who believes in you? Who is working against you? Are you having the impact you intend to be having—at work? At home? What is holding you back from better living?
Each coaching topic in the succeeding weekly posts can be addressed on it’s own, and some of the topics and activities may be more interesting to you than others—that’s fine! However, the construction process followed 95 years ago by the Big E architects in laying the bricks and mortar for The Better Living Center is pertinent for creating YOUR Better Living Center, too. Therefore, the first six topics in the list below are especially critical to your “structural integrity” as you build your better living center:
• Curiosity as a navigation device
• What would better living look like?
• It’s your life…or is it?
• Make the commitment to better living
• Needs, needs, we’ve all got needs
• Clean it up
• Don’t tolerate anything
• Tolerations…part two
• Standards for better living
• Claim the necessary boundaries
• The treasures of your life
• Accept and enjoy your unique gifts
• Understanding Attraction
• Being “at choice”
Better Living is accessible to anyone who desires it. The appreciative perspective from which it is born affirms that there is a lot that is good, strong and enjoyable in life right now, and from that strength, even more can be attained.
Here’s to your curiosity in better living!
Mary Ellen Sailer, Ed.D.